A lady

[Method Man]

So this year I became a season ticket holder for a football club. The club is about a 5/6 hour drive away from where I live, so I found a local supporters group who organise a minibus or car to go up to drive people to the games. Yesterday was the first time I went up with them.

I was the second person to be picked up, So I sat in the backseat with the girl that was picked up before me. To me she didn't look like a girl who liked football, or should I say didn't look like any of my girl friends who like football. She was quite 'girlie' and spoke quite posh. So we got talking and spoke about everything from football to our life experiences and work. We were really getting on and I felt completely different when speaking to her than I have felt with anyone else before. she seemed perfect to me, we had a lot in common, she was young and already quite successful in her career she had worked very hard to get where she was but still seemed like she knew how to have fun and to top it off great looking.

We arrived to the stadium about 2 hours early so we left everybody and walked around for a bit and decided to head inside the stadium. As we were sitting in different seats we had to use different entrances, but we agreed to meet up inside, so we exchanged numbers incase we couldn't find each other. We found each other inside grabbed a drink and chatted some more. It was really cute listening to her singing the chants with her posh voice. we then separated to go to our seats to watch the game.

We met back up after the game to make the long journey home. On the way home while talking I mentioned, and she said something along the lines of oh wow you young and sounded surprised, She was 22 and I reminded that I was only 3 years younger, so I hope that didn't put her off to much.

We seemed to really get on and I really really like her and I know it hasn't even been 24 hours since I last saw her, but I really want to speak to her again, I have thought about her a lot. I have her number, but I'm not sure whether I should use it or if it would be to soon or if she was even interested and just being friendly. I know will probably see her again soon at another game, but I know she said that she wasn't going to be able to make any for a while. So do I make contact or just wait until I see her again. I just don't know what to do!

That is probably one of my longest posts, so if you have taken the time to read all that babble thank you :)

[ShelfLife]

Hrmm...at first I was about to say that 19 and 22 isn't a real difference, but then I remembered that you 'Merican's aren't allowed to drink until you're 21 (or is that only in some states?). That may be a deal breaker for some people, especially if they like going out to pubs and bars and you can't partake.

Otherwise, there isn't much difference between a 19-year-old and a 22-year-old. You'll have to guage whether it seemed to bother her. But either way, text her and tell her you really enjoyed talking with her, would she like to meet up for coffee (or similar) sometime in the next week?

[Barbarella]

But either way, text her and tell her you really enjoyed talking with her, would she like to meet up for coffee (or similar) sometime in the next week?
This.

Call her, man. Life's full of regrets and shit.

Keep it friendly for now, play it by ear and see how things may progress. At this point you've got nothing to lose.

[delirium]

I'm thirding ShelfLife's suggestion. Just take it easy with her, get to know her, be bffls with her, and then fuck and dump her. I wouldn't do the latter if I were you, as that's not my style, but y'never know. D:

[Barbarella]

Hold on ...

A Man U fan and posh?

I suppose it could happen :P

[Method Man]

Hrmm...at first I was about to say that 19 and 22 isn't a real difference, but then I remembered that you 'Merican's aren't allowed to drink until you're 21 (or is that only in some states?). That may be a deal breaker for some people, especially if they like going out to pubs and bars and you can't partake.


I beg your pardon, I'm a jolly old splendid english chap :P. So the bar thing isn't a problem, because the age is only 18 over here.

This isn't the first time something like this has happened. I gave a girl a lift home after a night out where she had been drinking and I hadn't, and we were telling her something funny from another night out, and she was saying stuff like ' that is so immature, I had forgotten what it's like to be your age.' Then I reminded her that it was no different to what she had been doing that night, and that I was the one training for a decent job that should go places, and not still in education and living off my parents with out a job, and still going out most nights getting off my face at 23 years old! I wasn't as blunt as that but maybe I should have been, she might sorted it out.

It annoys my so much when people think they are superior just because they are a few years older physically or look down on your because of your age. Not that the girl from yesterday was doing that, but anyway that's for another hate thread.

I will do what you say Shelflife, I was going to do it anyway, but I just needed someone on the internet to back me up on it :P


Hold on ...

A Man U fan and posh?

I suppose it could happen :P

I know, I thought exactly the same. She isn't posh as such, just not what you would expect :D

[Shangs]

Send a text, and then when she answers, pretend that you sent it to her on accident, and that it was meant to be sent to the person above her on your contacts list. Then proceed to joke about it via text. That'll break the ice.

[ShelfLife]

I beg your pardon, I'm a jolly old splendid english chap :P. So the bar thing isn't a problem, because the age is only 18 over here.

Oh, I beg your pardon! I wasn't entirely sure where you hail from so I just assumed it was from the US of A, as with most other members. Mea cupa, I should have paid more attention to your post and the use of the word "posh"!

But that kind of age difference is just silly, especially if you're legal in all ways. I admit, I did something similar when I was chatting to a guy I'd met at a uni Open Day, and I assumed he was my age, if not older. He later admitted that he was 17 (maybe a month of 18) and I gasped and giggled, "Your a baby!" I feel a little bad about it now, but that kind of killed off any attraction I felt towards him purely because I realised we were at different life stages. I had left school, worked for a year, and had finished my first year of art-school, whereas he had only just finished high school and was under-aged (not that it stopped him from drinking or running rampant).

There were other things that really scratched him off my Touch-List, but that was the first thing to put me on guard. It wasn't so much the age-gap as the life-difference gap. But as I've said in earlier posts, I can't imagine there being much difference between 19 and early 20's, so anyone who makes a big deal about it is just being very silly and narrowminded (possibly even agist).

Still, go for the girl! You're a mature-minded young chap (I didn't realise you were 19 either), so let nothing stop you or hold you back!

[Not Mechanical]

I can't say much more than what's already been said. Text her, let her know you enjoyed talking the other day and would like to do it again, over drinks or whatever.
Sounds like you've got plenty in common, being interested in the same team and all, and she must be interested on some level to swap numbers and arrange to meet up with you during and after the game, so I hope it works out for you.
You can tell from your initial post how happy she made you and how much you like her, which made for a pleasant read, and I hope you grab it by the balls and go for it, after all, you don't have anything to lose.


It wasn't so much the age-gap as the life-difference gap.

I liked your post, and this sentence in particular caught my eye because I agree with it so much. I've always thought age gaps when you're school/uni aged are kind of weird. It's such a confusing time anyway, where you're still working out who you are and what you want to do, and, like you said, the older person has been through all these different stages of life and learned from all these experiences, while the other hasn't, and that just spells trouble a bit for me.
Not that I feel that applies to your situation, Method Man. I know you've been working for a while, and you certainly come across as a nice, mature guy, hopefully she won't see the age difference as a problem after getting to know you a bit more.