Socialising & Finding Romance?

[adamchabbi6]

I'm not that young. I'm 19 and everyone my age has had a girlfriend at least once.

[Mexicanfiend]

And does it matters what everyone else has done? It is not a race, you won't win a price if you have a gf/get married before anyone else. Relax, you are still young, do not worry about it and enjoy the large amount of benefits that your youth is capable of giving to you :)

[Dv5]

I'm not that young. I'm 19 and everyone my age has had a girlfriend at least once.

Yeah. Well I've been full of shit in this thread. But I'll level with you and be serious. I felt the same way around your age. I didn't even kiss a girl until I was 18. I "scored" my first gf because she stalked me, and sent me anonymous letters through friends because she was a closet Manson fan, and kind of preppy and wanted to fuck me, but didn't want her other friends to find out. So, I just walked up to her at school one day and just started talking to her. That's all you really need to do. Talk to people. Nothing has to happen or develope into something right off the bat. Just talk to people.

[Terrapin]

Just talk to people.

The best advice you can get. Be comfortable being yourself and be open to talk to people.

I was in your shoes, btw, didn't have a gf until I was 21(and that only lasted a year). That's not saying I didn't fuck around a lot in the meantime, but I just couldn't get close enough to anyone to allow a relationship to blossom. Something about not craving someone after you've had them completely, but I digress.

To relate, I have my own difficulties meeting anyone new at the moment, entirely due to the fact I don't get out much anymore. Most of my friends have all either graduated and moved far away or are engaged/married/have kids. I don't know anyone to take a night on the town with anymore, and that ability is only fleeting more and more as the years pass. So I remain secluded, as I don't want to end up like that lonely guy at the bar everyone pities(you know the ones I'm talking about). There IS a catch however, since my main focus remains in completing medical school, I have many other goals in life to focus on at this moment beyond those of social interaction. Find something to grab your attention away from what troubles you, and just live your life to the best. Events will naturally fall into place as you experience more and more.

Best of luck.

[Hazekiah]

Wait: was that chocolate dick thing a reference to black cock? In other words, " it helps to have a big, negro cock". Or literally a penis made of Hershey's?

I believe they were intending to allude to the human female's compulsions towards chocolate foodstuffs in general...but it WAS tastefully worded and certainly left the door open for interpretation, lol.

[adamchabbi6]

I have been realising lately that I hardly have many friends around me, maybe one or two true friends but the rest pretend and make fun behind my back. The people at my sixth form are dicks, so I'm not even going to bother talking about them. I wanted to know if a lot of people are generally rejected by others like this. I mean obviously there are people who are loners, but I hate being one of them. any ideas on how to change my life around?

[KnaveMurdok]

Friends are for suckers! You have the internet!! Aren't we good enough? HUH?? AREN'T WE??

[The Empirical Guy]

I have been realising lately that I hardly have many friends around me, maybe one or two true friends but the rest pretend and make fun behind my back. The people at my sixth form are dicks, so I'm not even going to bother talking about them. I wanted to know if a lot of people are generally rejected by others like this. I mean obviously there are people who are loners, but I hate being one of them. any ideas on how to change my life around?

If you're asking people on a Marilyn Manson internet forum for social tips, you're probably beyond redemption =p

I know that personally, my situation is the same, and I like it that way. If people were honest with themselves, most people would realize they are in this situation. I only have a small group of true, trusted friends, and then a large group of people who are more acquaintances, or people who are fine to hang out with, but I wouldn't try to rely on in important situations. This is possibly because a large majority of people aren't trustworthy enough to be trusted friends... so it's possibly nothing to do with you, but them.

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[adamchabbi6]

If you're asking people on a Marilyn Manson internet forum for social tips, you're probably beyond redemption =p

I know that personally, my situation is the same, and I like it that way. If people were honest with themselves, most people would realize they are in this situation. I only have a small group of true, trusted friends, and then a large group of people who are more acquaintances, or people who are fine to hang out with, but I wouldn't try to rely on in important situations. This is possibly because a large majority of people aren't trustworthy enough to be trusted friends... so it's possibly nothing to do with you, but them.

EDIT: 1, 500 post!

I know with Marilyn Manson's music it's all about not caring about fitting in and not needing to be with a popular group of people, which is clear in Irresponsible Hate Anthem. Although, I can't stand it sometimes because my lifestyle gets really frustrating and boring as fuck! I knew I shouldn't have made this thread, but sometimes I feel that I need to open to people how I'm actually feeling.

[ShelfLife]

You're in sixth form? Thus you're still in school, yes? I'm 21, three years out of school, and only now am I making some very close friends. In my case, it worked out that I met one person, and he has proceeded to introduce me to a ridiculous amount of awesome people. The moral of this story: refuse no invitation. You never know who'll meet, or who you'll be introduced to.

And don't feel bad for venting your feelings here - it's what we're here for. :)