thanks. I'm in my last year and luckily I finish for good in May. I'm 19 though, I'm supposed to be in my first year at uni now but I was moved down a year.
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thanks. I'm in my last year and luckily I finish for good in May. I'm 19 though, I'm supposed to be in my first year at uni now but I was moved down a year.
It really has nothing to do with Manson's music, I was just saying the obvious response. The fact is though if you are bored then it's not necessarily anything to do with having friends, but things to do. What activities do you do, or what hobbies do you have? Do things to entertain yourself and you will almost certainly meet people along the way. It has the benefit of you knowing they have at least one similar interest to you. Seriously, apart from this one guy I've known since I was about 8 when our teacher sat us next to each other, all the people I know have been met through doing things, such as my band, the games I play, etc, rather than doing things with people I met from some other random encounter. Once you have this group of people, you can become involved in other social outings like parties with them, where you will meet yet more people. So are you interested in sports? Go join a team. Are there any clubs or anything in your area you are interested in joining? Is there a decent bar or somewhere you and the friends you do have can go to meet a lady friend?Originally Posted by adamchabbi6
My avatar looks like a mix of NIN, My Chemical Romance, and Chris Vrenna
the people around you in school are all there mainly just due to geography. so while you might be lucky to have some friends, most would tend to be superficial anyway. when/if you move on to Uni, there will be people around you interested in the same subject matter and then you will have a better chance of finding people who would make better friends. and after uni, when you move to a place to live you love, and get a job (hopefully) that interests you, and continue to pursue a life, etc, you will meet more and more likeminded people who have greater true friend potential.
you can become a regular at a pub or a club that suits your style.
you can pursue hobbies and interests etc.
Spend an entire 24 hour period cocooned in a smelly blanket, imagining you're some kind of pale, greasy larva with bad taste in music, and when a golden sliver of morning light shines in through your window, emerge a butterfly.
I'm not being mean at all with this, but it actually might be your fault. People are animals. When they see an opportunity to hurt someone, they do it just to get socially accepted in a group. It's something I really can't stand, but I've noticed that's how youngsters behave.
I've noticed your activity these past few days on the forum and I understood this PM meet-up meant a lot to you. In parallel with this thread, I take it your self-confidence isn't that high? People can sense that, you know. It's like dogs smelling fear. Whenever you seem insecure, people in a "group" will attack - all the talking behind your back and so on. Since adolescence is a time when self-confidence is generally a bit iffy, young people thrive on making fun of others just to feel better about themselves. You shouldn't put that much thought into it, they're just being the natural jackasses they are.
I have very little self-confidence, to be honest with you, but I hide that very well when it comes to people I don't know. At parties where I know practically everyone, I pretty much go in my corner and start making toys out of paper napkins and cups and all that. At parties where I don't know a lot of people, I actually mingle and speak my mind because I don't care what they think of me and those people generally like me. For instance, people in my high-school class (we had only one class - different school system, so we were around 30 close friends) know that I am shy and etc. People in college have no clue that I am like that. Everyone keeps telling me stuff like, omg, you're such a good public speaker (not, I stare at the walls, never in people's eyes). So yeah, the feigning of self-confidence has a lot to do with it.
I would really advise you to try to pay as little attention to that kind of treatment your "friends" are giving you. Just try to not take everything to heart and be more like yourself and even though it's hard, don't give a damn on what people might think if you speak your mind. I'm sure that more people who actually like you for who you are will surface.
And don't pay attention to VIDe, he's just using his famous deadpan-exaggerated (but very funny) humor. That's how he rolled back at the 'Phant. I've noticed people got a bit unused to that type of humor and started taking things a bit more seriously. Don't take him seriously :).
EDIT: Haha, I said PM meat-up. Vaguely sexual references make rrodmila feel embarrassed, yet amused.
Last edited by rrodmila; 02-13-2011 at 02:33 PM.
Yes, being in the same class for 8 years really brings everyone together. As a result, in this educational system (in our country), high-school friends are pretty much the best friends you'll ever have. College is almost over (I have one year left, rrodmila graduates this semester) and yet, the people with which I go out and talk to the most are still my high-school friends. They're not my friends anymore man, they're my family.
Well, not really, but still.
I do not need a signature.
cats > friends
Some people will like you and some not. It works both ways too.
Once you're with a group in some form you'll form friends, acquaintances, etc.
I'm friends and am on speaking terms with mostly everyone in my Graphic Design class(es) at my college. Which is good and totally possible as I will be with these people for 2 years in total (almost done with the first year only for now though).
I'm A Class Act
So you're a cat person... *glares*
My avatar looks like a mix of NIN, My Chemical Romance, and Chris Vrenna
Me, too! My cat also makes coffee.
On a serious note, if you have two close friends, you're doing well. But, yeah, alienation doesn't feel good. But from what i have read in this thread, there's a lot of excellent advice in it.
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