Over a month ago I promised my classmate to help her prepare for an English "summer exam", which if she passes will grant her promotion to the next grade in high school. If she fails, she will have to repeat 11th grade.
The problem is that this time if she fails, she will repeat 11th grade for the third time, because she already failed last year, so she's also one year older than me.
Just to make clear, in Poland if you receive the lowest possible grades from subjects, even just one, at the end of the second semester (one school year has two semesters) it means you you fail and don't get promoted to the next grade. BUT you are privileged to write a "summer exam" from maximum two failed subjects and if you pass them, you get promoted. If you fail during the school year at more than two subjects, then you don't have that privilege and thus don't have any chance to get promoted anyway.
And my classmate failed at one subject, English, and can choose to write that exam at the end of August, right before school starts. That
is, if she wants to get promoted to the next grade and avoid being stuck in the same 11th grade for three years in a row.
And since I had the highest grade in our class in English, I promised to help her prepare. I didn't want her to pay me anything, I just wanted to do it out of good will. And now I fucking regret it.
In the first half of July, she didn't even bother asking me for help, because she was busy partying and having fun before she had to start thinking about studying. Then, over a week ago, she calls me and wants me to meet with to start preparing. And since my mother is in the hospital and for the past two months I've been constantly busy with my own personal problems, plus trying as hard as I could in getting out of a black hole and finally starting to live a normal life, I told her that for the next two days I would be busy. But I added that on Saturday I'll be free.
Saturday comes and she writes me a message on Facebook that her aunt died in a plane accident and she'll be away from home for the weekend to be with her family. Fine, I responded that I'm sorry for her loss but that I won't be able to meet in the following days.
We finally met for the first time on Wednesday last week and I decided to start with Conditional Types 0 and 1 but, lo and behold, I found out that her knowledge is so poor that she didn't even know what Present Simple looks like. On Thursday I sent her homework on Facebook and to this day she didn't do it and send it to me to check for errors.
Anyway, on Thursday her "best friend forever" whom I'll call here "Amanda" (who also is one year older than me because she also failed last summer and repeated 11th grade) asked me on FB how is "Sally" doing (the girl I'm helping; I changed her name). I told her that we finally met for the first time two days ago and lied that she's doing fine to calm her down. Amanda in turn replied that Sally told her that we met already a few times! And added that she also told her that I almost always didn't have the time to meet with her. I replied that, yes, I didn't have time before but once I was free, she told me that she'll be away from home for the weekend. Amanda was shocked and told me that she was in Warsaw all the time. What the fuck?!
Amanda said that she'll have to have a serious talk with Sally. On the next day, Sally called me and was mad at me that I told Amanda the truth about how many times we met because she want her to be worried and to constantly butt in asking if she's studying, because it annoys her. Then she explained that the reason why she didn't tell Amanda about her aunt is that she hates when people are sorry for her, especially her best friend. Then she told me that on Saturday her family comes to her and she won't be able to meet but from Sunday and so on she'll be free. But Sunday was my 18th birthday and said that I could meet on Monday.
Monday finally comes, I call her (instead of her calling me, but whatever) and she tells me that she's at work and completely forgot. I wanted to tell her "Well, then fuck you and if I'm the one who cares more about your ass than you, then study yourself." But I bit my tongue and said that I'll meet with her later today when she comes back from work.
I have to add that she and her group of friends are going on a two week holiday on 2nd August. Sally told me that she'll come back a week earlier, because she can't let herself stay longer for obvious reasons. But I on the other hand am planning to go on holiday with my close friends in mid August, so it seems like I have merely a week now until she goes and then when she comes back I'll have just another week to help her before I go. And her exam will take place when I'll be away.
The reason why I fucking want her to pass this stupid exam is that if she fails, Sally will blame me for failing at helping her and for being a shitty teacher but also Amanda (who didn't fail at any subject and got promoted) will make sure to turn 12th grade into hell for me for setting two "best friends forever" apart.
I don't know what to do because I can't tell her to get herself professional help from an English teacher because she's poor but I also can't tell her that I don't give a shit anymore and "help yourself" because I know that she won't be able to understand certain things without someone explaining them clearly. And there's practically no one in our class that knows grammar good enough to explain it properly.
But on the other hand I don't want to help her anymore because she's acting like a fucking lazy brat and I'm the one who's working here, trying to write her those idiotic exercises, which takes me a lot of time and this situation is killing me, while I also have other things, 10 times more important than this to worry about, like my own mom's health.
I don't know what to do. :(